Bodies are always complicated. For trans folks this is no exception.
Sex is often complicated. This is true for lots of trans folks.
Bodies and sex? Well…for some people that combo is a no-go. If you hate your body fully clothed you’re sure as hell not going to be excited to share it with another person. Except for the people that sure as hell are. And sometimes, there’s a rule, an unspoken rule about how trans folks are supposed to act when it comes to sex. What they’re supposed to like.
In some communities the rule for masculine trans folks is stone. You’re not gonna let anyone up inside you. No sir (or Sir, or Ma’am, or ma’am). Cause if you like to take it in your girl bits, you are not a real transman. Sound famliar? Transguys have to cope with and sift through the same mascluine stereotypes as every other person who identifies with the masculine.
In some communities the T guys are supposed to be super horny, doing everything in sight. And if you’re not, dude you’re so not a real T-man. Feminine trans folks have history of sexualization to color all of their own personal wants, desires, and fantasies. Being your own woman is no small feat and for trans women this is especially true.
And now we’ve strayed so very far from the amazing pleasure and eroticism that sex can hold. But what if sex had no shoulds? And what if it wasn’t always tied so closely to gender identity? Where would we be without school girl/teacher or daddy/boy fantasies? Two people fucking. Or three. Making love. Doing it. And enjoying themselves. Maybe.
